TL;DR: There is a difference between caring about someone's struggle and carrying it as if it were your own. Caring means staying steady enough to be useful. Carrying means climbing into their sinking...

TL;DR: Accomplished people can still get in their own way, even when they have the skills, discipline, and experience to succeed. Nicole Hollar, behavior change keynote speaker and integrative life co...

TL;DR: Willpower can get you through a hard decision, but it’s a poor strategy for sustaining change over months of real life. Nicole Hollar, behavior change keynote speaker and coach, looks at what h...

TL;DR: Distraction rarely arrives as one obvious interruption. More often, one small association leads to another until your attention is somewhere you never intended it to be. Nicole Hollar, behavior...

TL;DR: A feeling may be short-lived, but the thoughts you attach to it can keep it going long after the original moment has passed. Nicole Hollar, behavior change keynote speaker and coach, looks at w...

TL;DR: An intentional life and a repeated one can look remarkably similar from the outside. The difference is whether you’re consciously choosing how you live or simply running a familiar script on au...

TL;DR: The reasons you give for staying stuck can feel like facts when they’re really arguments built around a belief you’ve stopped questioning. Nicole Hollar, behavior change keynote speaker and int...

TL;DR: Walking into a room and forgetting why you’re there may have less to do with the doorway than with how much your mind was already carrying. Nicole Hollar, behavior change keynote speaker and in...

TL;DR: Repeating the same patterns isn’t always about bad luck or bad choices. Sometimes what keeps pulling you back is simply what feels familiar, even when it isn’t working for you. Nicole Hollar, b...