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Creating Quality Relationships with Authentic Communication

mindset Jan 12, 2024

Learning to speak your truth in a way that fosters understanding, connection, and mutual respect in a world often dominated by noise and superficial exchanges has its challenges. It is a topic I often discuss when speaking to kids.

The core of authentic communication requires the confidence and courage to express yourself genuinely. It's about stripping away masks, being vulnerable, and allowing your true self to be seen because you are confident with who you are. In a society that often values polished exteriors, authentic communication expresses sincerity and honesty.

Authentic, quality communication is the bridge that connects individuals on a deeper level. It transcends surface-level interactions, forging relationships built on trust, empathy, and a shared understanding. It's the key to unlocking the doors to meaningful connections.

Tips for Effective Authentic Communication

  • Non-Directive Communication: Non-directive communication involves creating a space where individuals...
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Don’t Mistake Preparation for Action

Changing our lifestyle really does follow a process of change. Don’t let yourself get trapped in the preparation stage of change. I remind people that at this point we do a lot of talking with occasional action moments but it usually becomes another mantra that gets repeated. Visualization is critical, however it must be followed by immediate action.

How Visualization Can Deceive Us

As you might imagine, I’ve heard people talk about getting more fit or changing jobs for years. They’ll occasionally try a new diet or exercise, or redo a resume but with no real commitment. They may do something to satisfy the inner voice that wants change for a moment but without really committing. The more you think about something with no action, the more your mind believes it is in the process of taking action because of the power of visualization.

We run in circles in the preparation and action stages because we don’t want to believe that we accept the situation we are in...

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The Power of Now: Embracing Presence in a Fast-Paced World

In a world that seems to be constantly in motion, where every moment is a race against time, the art of being present often takes a back seat. But you can choose to learn the significance of embracing the now, understanding how practicing mindfulness can lead to a more satisfying and meaningful life.

The hustle of our modern existence leaves little room for stillness. We're bombarded by notifications, deadlines, and a constant stream of information that pulls us away from the current moment. It's easy to find ourselves swept away by yesterday's regrets or tomorrow's uncertainties, neglecting the power that lies in the now.

Being truly present means more than just physically inhabiting a space. It's about engaging fully with the current moment, appreciating the sights, sounds, and sensations that surround us. In our pursuit of efficiency and progress, this art has become a victim to the limitations of time.

The Profound Impact of Presence

  1. Enhanced Well-Being: Research consistently...
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Mastering Motivation: Choose Your Direction Wisely

Motivation is the driving force behind our actions and decisions. But have you ever stopped to consider the direction your motivation is taking you?

 

Motivation strategies can be divided into two categories:

  • Moving Towards something (Towards Goals); and
  • Moving Away from something (Away From Goals).

Understanding these strategies is key to achieving lasting success.

When your motivation is directed Towards goals, you are fueled by your desires and aspirations. Setting clear, positive objectives can be a game-changer in your life.

On the other hand, Away From goals are fueled by the desire to escape something undesirable. While this strategy can provide short-term relief, it often leads to a cycle of temporary fixes.

For many people, they “tough it out” until they just can’t take it and then leave or do something different. For example, have you ever left a job or a relationship because it finally got too difficult to sustain? Unfortunately, with Move Away...

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Cultivating Awareness and Embracing Accountability

In a world that often feels like a whirlwind of commitments and distractions, taking a moment to reconnect with ourselves becomes not just a luxury but a necessity.

How are Awareness and Accountability entwined?

Imagine awareness as the compass guiding you through the labyrinth of your thoughts, emotions, and actions. It's the conscious acknowledgment of your existence and the choices you make. Accountability, on the other hand, is the courage to stand by those choices, taking responsibility for the impact they have on your life and the lives of those around you.

Why Does Awareness Matter?

In our fast-paced lives, it's easy to become disconnected from ourselves. We rush through tasks, navigate challenges on autopilot, and often forget to pause and breathe. Cultivating awareness is not about adding another task to your to-do list; it's about reclaiming the present moment.

  1. The Power of Presence: When was the last time you truly savored the flavor of your morning coffee or felt the...
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Unleash Your Potential: How Presence Elevates Productivity

Have you ever felt like life is passing you by in a blur of endless tasks and distractions? Do you find yourself constantly thinking about the past or worrying about the future? It's time to hit the pause button and explore the incredible power of presence – the key to unlocking your personal transformation.

 

The Myth of Productivity

In today's fast-paced world, productivity is often mistaken for presence. We've all seen those people who can juggle multiple tasks, meet deadlines, and check off their to-do lists without breaking a sweat. It's easy to envy their apparent drive and energy. But are they truly present?

 

Presence vs. Productivity

Being productive is about getting things done efficiently, while being present is about truly experiencing and engaging with each moment. It's not about speeding through life; it's about savoring it. We often associate productivity with success, but success without presence can leave us feeling empty and disconnected.

 

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I fixed the dryer.

mindset Oct 01, 2023

I fixed the dryer. It’s not a fancy dryer.

I see it like tossing crumpled paper into the trash can from afar; if I make it, cool! If I don’t make it, no harm because I would have gone to take the trash over there anyway.

More often than not, the risk/reward is that if you do nothing or fail it is going to be the same result. Yet, if you do something and succeed you are going to make a positive gain. So, the only real risk is that you might have a positive result. In the case of the dryer, I wasn’t going to break it more.

Can you think of any recent situation where that might have been true for you now that you can see it in your rearview?

So, here’s the thing I’ve learned over time about appliances and myself. Appliances are electrical and mechanical, and over time they have become more electrical than mechanical. What does that mean, it means that circuit boards run the show. In the case of a dryer, there are very few mechanical parts. Even though I...

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I was the problem.

I've been sitting here collecting my thoughts on what I need to move forward to promote my recent book "FEELING STUCK?" while looking at upcoming speaking events and workshop opportunities. It feels like a lot. Enough to feel in what I call life V-Fib. Kind of like a heart that is beating so erratically it is not productive. Except it is me. Stewing with thought after thought knowing I need to stop to organize them or time will fly by.

I'm the problem.

I remember a photo that popped up on social media of this sweet little overnight snack bag of goodies that my wife gave me. It was from November 2021. I went to a hotel for a day and a night to focus solely on my work. I was convinced It was the environment change I needed. I made a good push that weekend.

That was one of the many times I tried to make a push to get this book out of my head. Except at that point in my mind it wasn't a book, it was an online video course.

Turns out that while a change in environment helped. 

I was...

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You can reframe your mindset and take positive action

mindset May 07, 2020

I sat down with Tamiko Chambers of Starchild Social to talk about mindset, empowerment, taking control and so much more.

SUMMARY

Here's a few notes to summarize my discussion about re-framing our current environment:

  1. Stop saying why you can't.
  2. Ask yourself why some people who have had pretty tough lives are positive and joyous, while others who have pretty average lives are miserable inside.
  3. Know you have extraordinary ability inside.
  4. Stop making excuses and become empowered.
  5. Ask yourself if there is a benefit to not making a positive change.
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Creating Order and Calm Within Chaos

mindset wellness Mar 21, 2020

 I've been talking to a lot of people recently, from friends and family to clients and the common denominator most people are grappling with is: loss of control.

There has been A LOT of change recently. In the coming week I will be focusing my work with clients on creating order and structure within their day.

SUMMARY

Some reminders to take with you:

  1. Focus on what you can control.
  2. Honor your emotions so you can focus and not feel stuck.
  3. Be flexible.
  4. Start your day with a routine.
  5. Set benchmarks of success by hour and daily, as necessary.
  6. Get up hourly for at least 5 minutes. Grab a snack and water.
  7. Avoid eating because you are bored.
  8. Get outside.
  9. Meet your neighbors.
  10. Support each other.
  11. Catch up on projects you've been putting off - personal or business.
  12. Learn meditation.
  13. Take advantage of the various educational, fitness and entertainment apps and virtual tours available for free.
  14. Share your successes with each other.

You are going to make it through. You are more...

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